Wednesday, October 12, 2005
I want one every month!
Wow, I can't remember the last day I had a whole day off to myself. I LOVED it! I'm so sad that it's almost over now, but man am I glad I had one! Thank you, Trey, for your brilliant idea! I love you! Thanks to my in-laws, too, for watching the kids. Without you, there would be no day off!

I started it off by doing exactly what I was told to do. Julia told me to sleep till noon, so I did. I really didn't think I'd be able to, since I'm in the habit of waking up at 8:30 now. However, I held myself up as long as possible last night, and found no trouble at all sleeping until 11:30. After that, though, it was a struggle, but I pushed on and went back to my dream about partying with teenagers and playing on a baseball team (who knows!).

Once I got up, I watched tv. Now, this doesn't seem like a big deal to most of you. However, it was so wonderful to me, b/c it was the first time in a very long time that I got to sit down and watch an entire program w/o interruption. I watched. I enjoyed. I understood what was going on in the show. Great, just great!

Unfortunately, I had to run errands today, too. I got the alignment on the van fixed, but that was even great, b/c I got to sit in the waiting room for an hour all by myself, and just sit there and enjoy the peace. Plus, the guy who took my car was so nice to talk to, and the Mitsubishi place I bought the van from payed for it!

After that, I went to Barnes and Noble and read books on how to discipline your strong-willed child. I used to read books on just plain children, but now I've moved up to the ones about defiant children. I read an entire book called Try and Make Me! by Ray Levy, and I learned a lot of things. Earlier today I talked to my mom on the phone, and nearly broke down. I pretty much felt like the only possible thing I can do now to get TJ straight is to spank him, even though I'm still dead-set against it. I really don't want to, and I'm hoping that the stuff I found in this book, along with a renewed motivation to fix things around here will help, and I'll be able to avoid it altogether. I feel like if I do end up spanking him, I'll be seen as a big quitter, especially after my vehement arguments against it. We'll see. Anyway, back to my day. I know it must seem silly to go and read books about kids on your day off, but it was sooooo nice just to be able to sit and read a book w/o anyone running off or bothering me. I never wanted to leave...but the hunger and my back hurting made me!

Last, I went to The Olive Garden. Trey hates to eat there, and I really didn't want to cook something just for me. I figured, "Why not!" After all, what's better than being able to sit down to a meal and actually eating it w/o distractions, feeding your children, making them sit down, etc.? It was great! Of course, while I was there I mapped out my new daily schedule that will hopefully work, if I hopefully will stick to it. It was nice, though, b/c I was able to actually think and have complete thoughts, w/o having to stop every ten seconds to correct a child or pick it up. Ahhhh. Oh, and get this...in the table next to me was a woman who was also out on a night off, and eating all by herself! Cool, huh!

Now I'm at home, playing on the internet and waiting for Trey to get here so I can go get my cheerin'. It's funny that even though I'm so glad to be away from them for a little while, I still miss them so much and can't wait to see them again. Today while I was at Barnes and Noble, a little baby girl started crying, and I almost jumped up and grabbed her to hug her! (I'm sure that would have really freaked the dad out!) I've decided that Trey and I need to work it out so that each one of us gets a day like this at least once a month, even if it's just for the majority of the day and one of us takes the kids somewhere else for a while. It was so therapeutic and necessary. I sure do love Trey and his wonderful ideas! Have a great day! I'll see you soon!
 
posted by Christi at 9:44 PM | Permalink |


8 Comments:


  • At 10:25 PM, Blogger Julia

    You sound like you're feeling so much better. I think you have a good idea making up a daily routine. Lots of people are able to raise wonderful kids without spanking them. I wasn't able to without going insane, but that doesn't mean you can't. Richard's aunt, who I greatly respect, told me that whatever you decide to do, make sure you are consistent about your expectations, and if you're say you're going to do something, always do it. The other thing she said is to treat them with respect, even when you have to punish them, do it respectfully. She has two awesome grown kids, so I thought her advice bore repeating.

     
  • At 10:56 PM, Blogger Anvilcloud

    That's great. We all need a holiday every now and then -- even retired folks.

     
  • At 11:23 PM, Blogger TBG

    Glad to hear you had such a wonderful day. Great idea about each of you getting a whole day off a month.

    Have a great night!

     
  • At 11:35 PM, Blogger mrhaney

    i know how you feel christi. it is hard to get a day off. i think it took us over 20 years to get one of those. no one wanted to watch our four children. we both lived away from our parents so mine actually grew up with out grandparents to watch them every now and then.

     
  • At 12:07 PM, Blogger Kurt

    Sounds great!

     
  • At 12:36 PM, Blogger gina

    i agree with julia- we are not against spanking , but it is important to do it calmly, and with lots of hugs and explanations. not just beat them at will. lol.
    glad you had a good day. i had lunch at olive garden yesterday- we really should coordinate better!
    have a good day with new wisdom, new schedule , renewed spirit, etc.. you are doing a great job!

     
  • At 8:51 AM, Blogger Jillian

    You do sound like you are feeling so much better today. A day off will do that to you. I could use one myself. Anyways, I have been meaning to get here and leave a comment since yesterday morning and that shows where my day went. He could be acting out over alot of stuff. He could be jealous all of a sudden, it could be the potty training thing, it could be the tension that was in the house b/w you and Trey, could be almost anything. I would say try to figure out if anything major changed in his life (other than Taryn) to start it. I would also say screw potty training for a while. I would make him wear a diaper like a baby and see if he likes that. It will probably drive him nuts. Also, does Trey help with discipline or is it just you mainly? Cuz if Trey isn't helping, he should to see if it makes a difference if dad says it. Other than that, just maybe try to quit being such a pushover when it comes to him, and it's hard, I'm sure. But TRY. And keep your head up. It doesn't make you a bad mommy at all. He'll still grow up to be a good kid. He's just got to get past this. I would totally watch Supernanny if you were on there too. :-) Might want to apply and see what happens. The only other suggestion I have is get Dr. Phil's book about parenting. He's a pretty good person on that subject. "commando parenting" is exactly what some of these kids need that have lost their little minds.

     
  • At 5:32 PM, Blogger Cara

    Oh,how a day off makes you feel!! As a mom, that rarely happens! Congratulations to you, you deserve it! I had my first day off in about 4 months Thursday... I got the house clean and clothes washed and most importantly a bath alone.. So I know how you feel about reading a book.. What is it with men hating on the Olive Garden.. My husband despises that place!
    Don't feel bad about spanking.. I treaten my son with it by "popping" a belt and just the sound scares him enough to stay in the "ugly chair". My mom and dad spanked me and I think that I turned out pretty good! I also agree with Julia on consistency.